Parenting

  • Do not limit this category only to your children. Follow the principle of Vasudhaiva Kutumbakam ( the whole world is your family ) and treat every other kid as a child of God and serve them as a responsible adult.
  • You may think of being a mentor to a younger person and pass on the wisdom from your life experiences. Also learn from the young ones in this process.
  • You may also think about your “inner child” and working towards healing the wounds, if any.
  • You may also use this category to improve your relationship with your parents

Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.

Kahlil Gibran

There are many ways to measure success; not the least of which is the way your child describes you when talking to a friend

Anonymous

What is my belief about parenting?

  • Kids learn by watching you. So whatever you want to say, just be and do that. So set a good example
  • Children need a safe, loving and fun atmosphere to grow and express themselves. So create one
  • It is up to us to teach our children what they need to know to navigate through life
    • How to think ( Critical thinking ) and not what to think
    • How to set goals and focus ( Create plans to measure, monitor and achieve them )
    • How to be physically healthy ( Nutrition, Workout, Sleep )
    • How to make money ( build wealth )
    • How to learn anything
    • How to make friends and build networks
    • How to express yourself
    • How to explore oneself through travel, art, music, religion, culture and others
  • Be authentic and vulnerable with your kids. You do not have to be perfect.

What is my vision about parenting?

  • Raise
    • Independent – You are responsible for your actions in your life
    • Healthy – Physically, Mentally, Emotionally and Spiritually
    • Happy – develop emotional resilience and patience at all times through thick and thin ( read the poem “If” by Rudyard Kipling )
    • Courageous – Cultivate fearlessness and a quality of curious exploration through “fail fast, learn faster”
  • children

Why parenting is important?

  • You are laying the foundations for the future. So we have a sacred responsibility to lead the next generation in the right way.
  • Kids help you understand you – what you have gained and what you have lost. Sometimes, they could help you mirror yourself.
  • Kids help you connect more with your own parents and how you behaved with them when you were a kid.

What is my strategy for parenting?

Instead of having a strategy, I have the following three guiding principles in place:

  • Self-responsibility – You are responsible for all your choices you make and do not assign blame to others
  • Freedom – We do not own you. You own yourself. We can only create a environment where you can nurture yourself through failing and falling
  • Mutual Respect and Affection – Say what you mean but do not be mean. Conduct yourself with courtesy, kindness and respect

In every conversation with your kids, I use:

  • ALOHA technique
    • Ask right questions
    • Listen to what they say, the words they use
    • Observe their body language and take time to respond
    • Help if you can
    • Ask again

My job is to listen and be fully present for every kid

Each Child is a new being, a potential Prophet, a new spiritual prince, a new spark of light precipitated into the outer darkness

R.D.Laing

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